Taking On All That Life Throws At You
Most of the struggles and fights we have in life are not physical. The majority of our struggles are mental, emotional, or spiritual.
Developing a mind of a black belt will not only allow us to face these struggles, but also to over come them. We get our butts kicked when we let a problem overcome us.
As the saying goes, it’s not how many times we are knocked down, but how many times we get up.
“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place It will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you’re hit, it is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much can you take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!
Many people I have met go through life with a misguide understanding of life. For some reason they think that this life was meant to be easy and fair. That good will overcome evil in ever situation.
We’ve created a TV or movie mentality towards life. We think that problems can be fixed in 24 to 48 minutes. Maybe as long as an hour. That’s because the TV shows we watch are about that long and the movies we watch take about 30 minutes to set up the conflict and then spend the last hour overcoming it.
While I appreciate conflicts being resolved so quickly, if we are honest with ourselves, life is not so easy to wrap up.
We can learn valuable lessons from TV and movies, if we spend time to look and study them.
So how do you not get your butt kicked? We’ll use the above great scene from Rocky Balboa.
Sunshine and Rainbows
Rocky Balboa said it best, “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows.” With this, he proceeds to deliver one of the best speeches I’ve hear about how to win in life.
We need to be realistic in our approach to life. Just like a white can’t expect to perform a kick or kata like a black belt, we can’t delude ourselves only planning for the nice things.
Bad things will come. We need to be ready for them.
As a black belt, I have trained for years for the inevitable. One day, I will be, or I will see an assault happen.
How will I respond? Hopefully in the way I trained and therefore, will end the conflict quickly.
Since I train to defend against a potential physical threat, shouldn’t I also train to defend against other threats that are more likely to happen?
A Very Mean and Nasty Place
The world “is a very mean and nasty place It will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.”
I am more likely to face emotional or mental assaults than physical ones.
These can be just as debilitating as a physical assault.
We lie to our kids when we tell them “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”.
There are verbal assaults, cyber-bullying, bosses who belittle us, and more.
These words can haunt us for years to come. How many of us can remember hurtful words? We struggle to do meaningful work since we were told as a child we were stupid, just a girl, or that we’ll never amount to much.
Remember, we are the ones that let those words keep us down permanently.
Keep Moving Forward
Remember, “it ain’t about how hard you’re hit, it is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much can you take and keep moving forward.”
You overcome something through perseverance, support, and toughness of mind.
These are some of the same things that helps a white belt become a black belt.
If you have every trained for anything, you will know that you will eventually hit road blocks. Some of these road blocks can knock the wind out of you.
When we spar in karate, some times you get the wind knock out of you. You know how to continue to fight? You learn to cover up and move so that you can gain your wind back while avoiding further punishment.
The person sparring you may or may not pull back (I don’t). I keep press the attack (within reason). This helps the person learn to keep moving.
If they stay in one place, they will eventually fall and stay down (get knocked out). If they move, they can gain the seconds needed to get most of their breathe back.
That’s how you will win in a fight and in life.
Believe In Yourself
Near the end of the speech that Rocky is giving, he states “Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth.”
You need to believe in yourself. You need to realize that you can accomplish things. You will never become a black belt on your own, you will require help along the way. But even with help, unless you think you can, you won’t.
The belief in yourself will help you through the tough times.
Rocky continues “But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you!”
Life will try to knock you out. Don’t let it.
Train and prepare yourself for the rough times. They are coming.
But you know that the testing you go through will produce steadfastness. When steadfastness has finished it work, you will become complete and lack nothing.
You will be able to stand firm/
Now, go for it!